"Be submissive and humble, you're only a woman! What do you know?"; the words of society to the girl child who grows into a woman. Women and girls go through various harsh treatment for no very distinct cause. In marriages, workplaces, communities, social discourses; the woman/girl can speak but not too much and certainly not forcefully. It is not enough to term such treatments as harsh; because they are more of deteriorating tools.
In marriages, the woman has to submit to the husband and hold on with whatever they want to do for themselves, sometimes submission becomes synonymous to silence even when abused by their husbands. In some societies, girls have to run away from homes to the streets in order to pursue their dreams and even at that, they suffer diverse abuses. The most shocking bit of them all is at the workplace where everybody has a job based on their qualifications; yet there is always a way to stop the woman from reaching a certain level.Placing on them what they call, 'glass ceiling' where women can see where they deserve to reach yet will never get there because they can't just accept a woman go that far; like 'some positions are to the preserve of men'.
If only we can change the very little things which are impeding the growth our societies; the very arm of culture that retards the development of societies because it looks at gender first above all others.
If only we can wipe out the writings on the board of life that equate women to fragility and threats to men whenever they(women) are determined to realize their dreams.
And what if we all agree to let everyone have a space to be strong,determined, ambitious, successful?
What if we just give it a thought to amend that which we ourselves made years ago; where born a man is another expression for power, success, enormous strength with no weakness? And allow the man to live freely as a man; one who can equally be sad and can sob when he feels like and won't be called "okotoo" (a Fantse name for a coward usually used for men). And simultaneously give room for the woman to dream and be allowed to reach every height she can toil to reach. While we drop some statements like 'what are you?','aren't you only a woman?' , 'don't be too difficult by being too ambitious; otherwise no man would want to marry you.'.
We need to make the very changes that would bring out the best in us as partners in the contract of making our world a better place. The change must be made right here with our attitudes and mindsets. The woman is a helper (part of the work anyways) and so should be given the chance to help; by allowing her bring out that which she can use to help without set backs from society, management, and families. This reminds me of that poem I learnt in my basic class titled; ' If All Were One, what a great world that would be', and say that if we can come together as one with no gender disparities and discrimination of any kind, see ourselves as partners and not as a master to a maid servant, we can indeed live in a better world. Where we can all redeem our identities because we have the same space to do so. Let's be partners now! and live in a grievance or pain free world.
Thank You.
If only we can wipe out the writings on the board of life that equate women to fragility and threats to men whenever they(women) are determined to realize their dreams.
And what if we all agree to let everyone have a space to be strong,determined, ambitious, successful?
What if we just give it a thought to amend that which we ourselves made years ago; where born a man is another expression for power, success, enormous strength with no weakness? And allow the man to live freely as a man; one who can equally be sad and can sob when he feels like and won't be called "okotoo" (a Fantse name for a coward usually used for men). And simultaneously give room for the woman to dream and be allowed to reach every height she can toil to reach. While we drop some statements like 'what are you?','aren't you only a woman?' , 'don't be too difficult by being too ambitious; otherwise no man would want to marry you.'.
We need to make the very changes that would bring out the best in us as partners in the contract of making our world a better place. The change must be made right here with our attitudes and mindsets. The woman is a helper (part of the work anyways) and so should be given the chance to help; by allowing her bring out that which she can use to help without set backs from society, management, and families. This reminds me of that poem I learnt in my basic class titled; ' If All Were One, what a great world that would be', and say that if we can come together as one with no gender disparities and discrimination of any kind, see ourselves as partners and not as a master to a maid servant, we can indeed live in a better world. Where we can all redeem our identities because we have the same space to do so. Let's be partners now! and live in a grievance or pain free world.
Thank You.
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